10 tips to get laid in japan

So you’re thinking about heading to Japan to meet some cute local ladies? I spent time exploring this amazing country and let me tell you – it’s like stepping into another world. But if you’re focused on dating success, there are some crucial things you should know. Here’s my no-bullshit guide to dating Japanese women.

1. Your Budget Will Make or Break You

Japan is expensive as shit, especially Tokyo. While there are ways to cut corners, don’t be a cheap-ass if you’re serious about dating here. Living on a tight budget will seriously limit your options with women.

Many younger Japanese girls still live with their parents (because rent is so damn expensive), so you’ll need your own decent place. And no, a capsule hotel won’t cut it – they separate men and women and kick you out daily from 10am to 5pm. Plus, most don’t allow guests.

2. Logistics Are Absolutely Critical

Location matters more than you think. If your hotel is far from the action, good luck convincing a girl to take a long-ass train ride back with you. If you’re staying somewhere central but crappy (like a hostel), you probably can’t bring anyone back.

Love hotels are an option (about $50-60 per hour or $100 for the night), but know where they are before you need one. This is especially important for day game and instant dates.

3. Japanese Women Need More Time

Rushing things is a massive game-killer with Japanese girls. As soon as they sense you’re trying to speed things up, they get scared and start flaking. Whether it’s day game or online, plan to spend more time in each city you visit or just stick to one place.

I made the mistake of visiting five cities with only 2-3 days in each – way too short to get decent results.

4. Pipeline Early and Smart

If you’re using tinder or bumble, start pipelining at least a WEEK before arriving. Most Japanese girls won’t meet if you’ve only chatted for a day or two.

My advice:

• Use your coolest pictures
• Imply you’re living in Japan (not just visiting)
• Actually talk to them to build up trust.
• Get her on LINE (messaging app everyone uses)
• Build comfort through texting
• Don’t rush the meet-up

5. Language Barriers Are Real

Not many people speak English in Japan, and those who do will downplay their abilities out of shyness. Learn some basic phrases – it goes a long way.

When they claim their English is bad, compliment them: “Wow, your English is so good!” They’ll deny it, but keep encouraging them: “No really, it’s really good. Your English sooooo good [wide hand gesture], my Japanese sooooo bad [small hand gesture].” Usually gets a laugh and loosens them up.

6. Day Game Can Be Very Effective

Day game is cheap and there are hot girls everywhere, though they’re often with friends. Approach confidently and try the “new guy in town” angle (not tourist).

I got LINE/number closes on almost every approach, but converting those to actual dates was fucking hard.

7. Sex Shops Are Mainstream

There’s surprisingly little taboo around sex shops in Japan. I visited a 7-floor sex shop in Tokyo with some of the weirdest shit I’ve ever seen. People walk around these stores like they’re buying groceries – couples and individuals grabbing dildos and fleshlights with poker faces.

They have every imaginable costume: schoolgirl, nurse, anime character. Great place to buy a souvenir for your girl.

8. Night Game Works Different Here

The nightlife can be good for makeouts and number closes, but harder for same-night pulls. Clubs often close early (some by 1am), and cover charges can be steep ($20-40).

If you’re solo, try socializing with other guys in line – you might find a wingman. Quality girls are available, but typically you’ll need to meet them another day.

9. Regional Differences Matter

Girls from different cities have different vibes:

• Tokyo girls are more reserved
• Osaka girls are more outgoing
• Girls from smaller cities or countryside are more into foreigners (they think all foreigners are rock stars)
• Fukuoka supposedly has the most beautiful women

Some say the best quality girls are in Fukuoka, and they’re supposedly easier to pick up there than in Tokyo.

Here is our video on the topic:

Final Thoughts

Dating in Japan is definitely more challenging than places like Thailand or the Philippines. Japanese women are generally low maintenance and better in bed than most other Asian women I’ve experienced. They take care of their bodies better than western women and know how to dress well.

On the downside, many are childish, and the attractive ones often lack substance. Oh, and heads up – many Japanese girls don’t trim or shave down there. They also rarely express their feelings directly (you have to figure them out).

If you’re looking for more info on dating in Japan, check out JapanDating or learn more about meeting Asian girls in general. And always remember that teasing women properly works universally.

Japan is an amazing country with truly beautiful and sexy women. Just come prepared and avoid these mistakes, and you’ll have a much better experience than I did on my first trip.